Tahiry Speaks On Joe Budden Badly Beating Her

by HHL JT

On an episode of Hollywood Unblocked, Tahiry Jose detailed the domestic abuse she suffered at the hands of her ex Joe Budden.

“With Joey, there’s no telling,” she says around the 28-minute mark. “It’s just he’s pretty much unpredictable. I don’t know if I trust him too much. When it comes to Joe, it all depends … I let go and let God and everything improved, so I’ve forgiven everything he did so it’s whatever to me.

She really spills the beans at the 48-minute mark.  She's asked if Budden abused her.  She looks pained and then tells the tale of Budden's physical abuse.

“That’s a whole other show. “How do you heal from something that you watch somebody lie about for so many years," she said. "It’s hard to heal as a person. Imagine having to heal in the public eye. So I really never talked about none of this because how do you heal with all this noise, right? I think I’m just -- I'm a strong one, but it’s really painful to watch men do what they do and because they have a platform, lie about it to your face. Like, it’s almost like you’re making a mockery, you’re making fun of me. It’s also my safety that I’m concerned about.

“I’m the oldest of 14. So, um, I think that they way I was dealing with being in a relationship with Joe was just tucking it, hiding it ’cause I can’t stop. I have to keep going because people rely on me ’cause I have to handle stuff, ’cause I have to grow in this business, ’cause I’m not going to fold. I’m not failing because you want me to and I just keep going until your trauma meets you. In the words of my friend Charlamagne, either you meet your trauma or the trauma will meet you. I didn’t into that house being to discuss being in domestic violence before, it just met me face-to-face. Then watch your ex say something like, ‘Tahiry will fight a man.’ I didn’t fight him. I was scared to death. 

“I’ve been beaten before,” she continued. “That relationship left me with a fractured rib, a broken nose because somebody was sending him a message. And I used to always say, ‘Stop beefing out there, I’m still working.’ And he hit me on that nose and then pushed me down a flight of stairs. I remember having to talk him out of letting me go that day. I remember having a plan to leave because the reason why he was so upset was because I was already leaving, looking through my phone and sh*t. But I had already told him give me two weeks to pack up my things. He agreed to it and then started looking through my phone. Next thing you know, I got woken up by him dragging me by my ankle. I managed to get up from that floor.

“I remember having everything in my bag, all the things that I needed to have in that bag — my passport, my birth certificate, you know, the shit that I needed. That’s all I needed and some money that I already had together because I  knew better. I became that person that you hear about. Women need to know that a man will break your spirits before he actually man puts his hands on you. It started with verbal abuse, emotional abuse and it eventually turned to that. And I still fear for my safety, also protecting. He hurt me bad and I just stayed quiet. I went to the hospital and he sat next to me. I lied to the doctors and said I was cleaning a cabinet and fell in the kitchen — and then he rapped about it ... and you go as far as spending 20 minutes on you podcast saying Tahiry will fight a man ... no, I will fight you back."

Joe was arrested for beating his girlfriend -- who wasn't named -- in 2014.  The charges were eventually dropped.

Today is Joe's 40th birthday and he's looking for a new podcast deal after leaving Spotify because he felt they were underpaying him.

This isn't going to help him find a new podcast home.